Let's see if this happens to you as well.
Do you ever find yourselves laying on the couch, staring at the ceiling and feeling like everybody else is having a better day than yours?
If yes, I know how to make that demon go away.
Don't worry.
FIRST STEP
(you probably have achieved it already because you have taken your laptop and found this post that is going to be useful).
HAVE A THINK. TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND FOLLOW MY THOUGHTS.
Every time you feel down, be cheerful for the only fact that something good will follow, sooner or later. IT IS THE LAW OF NEGATIVITY. IT EXISTS ONLY BECAUSE THERE IS POSITIVISM.
So wait for a relief to come. it will come eventually, in a minute (has it come already?) or in half an hour, or in half a day, but it will certainly follow.
It's as lawful as the Maths.
To whatever problems you might have got (is it love? work? family? being unsatisfied with yourself? weight?), there is always something that can dash that feeling off even for a second:
SECOND STEP:
HAVING FUN.
Now, you might be thinking: "Gosh, how am I supposed to have fun when I am feeling so down and all I can think about is crying and going desperate?". Or: "Having fun is a time waster, because I'd rather use that time to make improvements in my life, like working or do something more useful".
There you go.
HAVE YOU EVER WATCHED CAREFULLY HOW CAN SOME PEOPLE BE HAPPY? HOW CAN THEY MANAGE TO LIVE IN A HAPPIER WAY?
THEY KNOW HOW TO HAVE FUN.
THEY WILL NEVER FEEL DOWN AS MUCH AS YOU DO, BECAUSE THEY KNOW WHAT MAKES THEM FEELING HAPPY AGAIN WHEN SOMETHING BAD HAPPENS TO THEM.
First of all, we shall all agree on the fact that negative stuff happens to everybody. the difference hides behind HOW TO HANDLE AND MAKE NEGATIVITY GO AWAY.
So our second step concerns HOW TO LEARN HOW TO HAVE FUN.
if you are on the couch and you feel depressed, you have got half an hour before you have to get going and you think YOU MIGHT NOT HAVE ENOUGH TIME FOR THIS BULLSHIT CALLED "FUN"., well, let me tell you: having fun can take even a minute or two. and it doesn't require energy or thoughts IF YOU KNOW HOW TO HAVE FUN YOURSELVES!
THIRD STEP (really important):
HOW CAN I HAVE FUN?
If you are asking yourselves this, well, surely you haven't experienced FUN for a long time.
What helped me when I needed to know what FUN was, something really saved my days:
REMEMBERING WHAT I USED TO PLAY WITH WHEN I WAS A CHILD.
HOW DID I HAVE FUN BACK AT THAT TIME?
Obviously, some of you might even think you didn't have a lot of fun back in those days.
But let me tell you, when you are a child YOU HAVEN'T GOT THE AMOUNT OF THE GROWN UPS PROBLEMS.
Certainly, childhood is where all the problems begin, because it's the age where you shape your personality.
BUT AT LEAST, WHEN YOU ARE A CHILD, YOU HAVEN'T DEALT WITH ALL THESE ISSUES FOR A LONG TIME YET, therefore YOU STILL KNOW HOW TO HAVE FUN.
If you can't think of a moment when you had fun when you were little, LET ME KNOW IN THE COMMENTS AND I'LL BE GLAD TO HELP YOU.
FOURTH STEP:
HAVE YOU REMEMBERED? how did you use to have fun?
Every person has different ways of having fun.
I will let you know mines (luckily, I have got more than one!), and it will be so nice hearing what things you like doing for fun.
- As I am an only child, I have always loved making up new families with lots of siblings in them. The family members were usually bracelets, or pieces of old rugs, as big as a hand let's say. I used to make them play in the garden.
I made up their voices, and use to hold them and make them move.
For me, that was an ideal world that could substitute the real one for a couple of hours.
Meanwhile I played with them, I felt less lonely, I HAD REAL FUN.
I made them talk, argue and kiss each over, as real beings!
I pretended they had to go to school, do their home works, and then it came the time when the parents came to pick them up!-
I will show you some pictures of my little people, of my imaginary world.
And, can I let you know something?
ONCE I REALIZED THAT THE IMAGINARY WORLD ACTIVITY MADE ME HAVING FUN BACK IN TIME, I TRIED TO BRING IT BACK AND...IT WORKED!
NOWADAYS, THAT IS ONE OF THE THINGS THAT REALLY ENTERTAIN ME.
Every time I feel down, I walk away from the couch, I go and fetch my little bracelets, and pretend to play with them once again!
even if I'm a grown up and I should feel (because everyone else does) like spending time working and doing something more important, I RECKON THAT IF YOU DON'T HAVE FUN, even for just a little time, YOU WILL NOT BE ABLE TO SUCCEED IN EVERYTHING YOU DO IN LIFE.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS "USEFUL" or "NOT USEFUL" WAY OF SPENDING YOUR TIME WHEN IT'S ABOUT HAVING FUN.
Isn't having fun the biggest goal of a person life? WHY ARE YOU SO INTO MONEY? Because you hope that with them you cam have even more fun.
Having a longer life is something meant to be to have more time for FUN!
THE MAIN ISSUE IS KNOWING HOW YOU CAN HAVE FUN. WHICH ACTIVITIES CAN ENTERTAIN YOU.
I have got so many other ways of having fun, and I would like to share them with you!
Likewise, you can tell me which are the things that make you smile and be happy!
Let me know!
There are more steps to come, we only reached the fourth.
I hope at least, for a start, that even if still on the couch (ideally) you have started thinking about the times when you had fun! enjoy your memories! THAT IS ALREADY HAVING FUN THINKING BACK AT THOSE TIMES!
Don't worry, AFTER A NEGATIVE MOMENT THERE IS ALWAYS A POSITIVE ONE! ALWAYS! There couldn't be a negative if there wasn't a positive.
I will let you know other ways to have fun in the next posts!
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